News flash! I turned 22 on October 3rd… and for those of you who happened to notice, I’m no longer on social media.
It’s been 2 months now since I left social media and honestly speaking, I don’t regret taking the step. This isn’t the first time I’ve deleted my social media accounts to go MIA. In fact, I tend to do this very often.
I’ve grown so much in 22 years. And I honestly can’t believe how time flies.
I’m still growing and learning. Most importantly, I still don’t know it all. Each day brings a challenge in my life that contributes to my overall growth, so yesterday’s version of me doesn’t always carry herself into tomorrow’s version.
With that being said, I do want to share with you guys 22 things I’ve learned in 22 years. Comment below one important life lesson you learned at 22 or whatever age you are. I would really love to know.
22 THINGS I’VE LEARNED IN 22 YEARS
1.) Stop trying to have it all figured out
Growing up, I always thought I needed to have my life figured out by a certain age. I wanted to be married at 25, done with school by 21, have kids by 30 and be a successful businesswoman by 35. As I’ve grown older, I’ve come to realize that life doesn’t happen the way I want it to. In fact, sometimes it catches me by surprise.
2.) Don’t be a know-it-all
I dislike being around know-it-alls..lol… But is it crazy to say that sometimes I act like one myself? This season has really shown me the importance of being teachable and I’m honestly so grateful for the new experiences I’ve been opened up to.
3.) You only need one friend
I have a lot of people around me that I call “friends”, but in all honesty, I only have one friend and her name is Amarachi. She lives all the way in Texas and I miss her so much. She has been my best friend for 9 years now and I love her to shreds. She’s the only one that knows me to a level that no one else does and I’m still very thankful for her.
With that being said, I do have many acquaintances that would qualify as friends in my life. But I genuinely do not trust people enough to let them in, so I’m still very cautious around the individuals I get close to.
4.) Don’t miss opportunities
This is one I had to learn the hard way, but I’m glad I did.
5.) Be realistic
Life is messy and it’s important to be realistic about things. I used to walk by faith a lot, but these days I’m learning the importance of being realistic. If I don’t work hard to get that job, I’m not going to get it. Faith can’t save the day!
6.) Not everyone needs to know your business
Although I do share parts of my life on the blog, I’m still very careful with the information I share publicly. I only share things that I feel will be of encouragement to someone else and I keep it that way.
Not everyone needs to know my business.
7.) Let people talk
I used to be so concerned about my reputation and people seeing me in a good light, but these days I don’t care anymore. If people speak about me (whether negatively or positively), then I must be very important for them to have me in their thoughts.
I’ve come to the understanding that no one would ever really know me or my heart intentions. So if anyone claims to know it all, I consider them a liar.
8.) Embrace being unique
My character, interests, hobbies, goals, and aspirations have always stood out from my peers. As a result, I always used to think I was weird. In recent years, I’ve come to the understanding that my uniqueness is actually part of my purpose. And I embrace being different.
9.) I’m a survivor
There are some horrible things in my life that I’ve been through and never told a single soul.. and I can honestly say that I’m a survivor of those tragic things.
10.) Love unconditionally, even when it hurts
The truth is, I genuinely love people.. even those who have been nothing but horrible to me.
I always used to think this was a problem because of how society stresses self-love. As a result, I tried to appear mean and unapproachable.
Thankfully, these days I’m learning that it’s okay to be transparent.
11.) Be Transparent
Transparency is a good thing, however, I still sometimes struggle with it. But I’m learning that it’s completely okay to be transparent.
12.) Take care of your health
Over the summer, I made it a habit of mine to wake up in the morning and go on daily runs. It was so refreshing for me and I noticed a ton of changes in my appearance as a result.
Now that it’s winter, I’m struggling to keep this going. Hopefully, I figure something out soon.
13.) Death isn’t so scary
I lost my dad last year and it gave me a brand new perspective of death. I’m glad to say that I’m no longer afraid of dying.
14.) Life is Shitty
It is just shitty. Some days are great, but most days are shitty.
15.) Check on your family
I used to be so guilty of not calling my family members often. But since my dad passed, I’ve made a more conscious effort to reach out as often as I can.
16.) Invest more time in your passions
You never know where a hobby might take you. I used to blog for fun. But as of today, blogging has become my actual side job and I love it.
17.) Use your voice
Over the past few months, I’ve learned to speak what’s truly in my heart. I never used to be this way before, since I was such a people pleaser and cared what others thought. However, these days I no longer hold back.
I’ve lost friends as a result of this, but I’ve also gained genuine friends as a result of it too. I will rather be real to your face than fake behind your back.
18.) Use your gift
Do you know how many times the enemy has tried to use people to stop me from stepping out in my gifting? Countless times!!!
Learn from my mistakes and don’t quit.
19.) Not every counsel is good counsel
Even if it comes from anointed ministers.
I’ve made so many mistakes by listening to the advice of individuals that claim to have wisdom. Oh, how I wish I never listened!!
20.) Social media isn’t everything
Some find their identity in the number of followers they have and others show respect based on follower count. Both I find to be meaningless.
Social media isn’t everything. In fact, it’s really all a facade. People who look to social media to know about a person’s life deceive themselves.
We tend to put our best out for the world to see while keeping the terrible things behind closed doors. So don’t expect social media to be a place for 100% transparency.
21.) Pride comes before a fall
This is a saying that is often thrown around a lot. But I honestly didn’t understand it until much recently.
Humility is so attractive. And I constantly find myself drawn to people who are humble at heart. There’s just something about humility that makes the world your oyster.
22.) It’s okay to cry
Crying does not make you weak. In fact, it shows you’re strong enough to let your emotions out for the world to see. Not everyone is brave enough to do so. Let the tears flow…