News flash! I turned 22 on October 3rd… and for those of you who happened to notice, I’m no longer on social media.
It’s been 2 months now since I left social media and honestly speaking, I don’t regret taking the step. This isn’t the first time I’ve deleted my social media accounts to go MIA. In fact, I tend to do this very often.
I’ve grown so much in 22 years. And I honestly can’t believe how time flies.
I’m still growing and learning. Most importantly, I still don’t know it all. Each day brings a challenge in my life that contributes to my overall growth, so yesterday’s version of me doesn’t always carry herself into tomorrow’s version.
With that being said, I do want to share with you guys 22 things I’ve learned in 22 years. Comment below one important life lesson you learned at 22 or whatever age you are. I would really love to know.
22 THINGS I’VE LEARNED IN 22 YEARS
1.) Stop trying to have it all figured out
Growing up, I always thought I needed to have my life figured out by a certain age. I wanted to be married at 25, done with school by 21, have kids by 30 and be a successful businesswoman by 35. As I’ve grown older, I’ve come to realize that life doesn’t happen the way I want it to. In fact, sometimes it catches me by surprise.
I’m slowly coming to a place where I’m more content with letting things flow in God’s timing.
“For still the vision awaits its appointed time; it hastens to the end—it will not lie. If it seems slow, wait for it; it will surely come; it will not delay.” – Habakkuk 2:3
2.) Don’t be a know-it-all
I dislike being around know-it-alls..lol… But is it crazy to say that sometimes I act like one myself? Growing in my faith this season has really shown me the importance of being teachable and I’m honestly so grateful for the new experiences I’ve been opened up to.
“Anyone who claims to know all the answers doesn’t really know very much.” – 1 Corinthians 8:2
3.) You only need one friend
I have a lot of people around me that I call “friends”, but in all honesty, I only have one friend and her name is Amarachi. She lives all the way in Texas and I miss her so much. She has been my best friend for 9 years now and I love her to shreds. She’s the only one that knows me to a level that no one else does and I’m still very thankful to God for her.
With that being said, I do have many acquaintances that would qualify as friends in my life. But I genuinely do not trust people enough to let them in, so I’m still very cautious around the individuals I get close to.
“A man of too many friends comes to ruin, But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.” – Proverbs 18:24
4.) God is not Judgemental
Before getting saved, I used to run away from Christians and Christianity in general. I did so because I always thought God was this jealous serious harsh Father who never wanted me to have fun. As a result, I assumed He was a tyrant. It wasn’t until I got saved and started getting intimate with Him that I came to the realization that He’s actually pretty chill and far from Judgemental.
With that being said, there are still some self-righteous people that like to portray Him in that kind of light and I do avoid them at all costs.
“Be careful,” Jesus said to them. “Be on your guard against the yeast of the Pharisees and Sadducees.” – Matthew 16:6
5.) No one really knows God
The truth is, we all have different views of God based on our level of intimacy with Him. Some of us might see God through the eyes of our earthly parents and some of us might see Him from our own personal revelation of HIm. Either way, we are all still growing in our knowledge of Him.
“I want to know Christ–yes, to know the power of his resurrection and participation in his sufferings, becoming like him in his death” – Philippians 3:10
6.) Not everyone needs to know your business
Although I do share parts of my life on the blog, I’m still very careful with the information I share publicly. I only share things that I feel will be of encouragement to someone else and I keep it that way.
Not everyone needs to know my business.
“Make it your goal to live a quiet life, minding your own business and working with your hands, just as we instructed you before.” – 1 Thessalonians 4:11
7.) Let people talk
I used to be so concerned about my reputation and people seeing me in a good light, but these days I don’t care anymore. If people speak about me (whether negatively or positively), then I must be very important for them to have me in their thoughts.
I’ve come to the understanding that no one would ever really know me or my heart intentions except Jesus Christ alone. So if anyone claims to know it all, I consider them a liar.
“Now our knowledge is partial and incomplete, and even the gift of prophecy reveals only part of the whole picture!” – 1 Corinthians 13:9
8.) Embrace being unique
My character, interests, hobbies, goals, and aspirations have always stood out from my peers. As a result, I always used to think I was weird. In recent years, I’ve come to the understanding that my uniqueness is actually part of my God-given purpose. And I embrace being different.
“Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvellous—how well I know it.” – Psalm 139:14
9.) I’m a survivor
There are some horrible things in my life that I’ve been through and never told a single soul.. and I can honestly say that I’m a survivor of those tragic things.
“For when I am weak, then I am strong.” – 2 Corinthians 12:10
10.) Love unconditionally, even when it hurts
The truth is, I genuinely love people.. even those who have been nothing but horrible to me.
I always used to think this was a problem because of how society stresses self-love. As a result, I tried to appear mean and unapproachable.
Thankfully, these days I’m learning that it’s okay to be transparent.
“Don’t just pretend to love others. Really love them” – Romans 12:9
11.) Be Transparent
Transparency is a good thing, however, I still struggle with it. Thankfully, God constantly helps me with it.
“Therefore, having put away falsehood, let each one of you speak the truth with his neighbour, for we are members one of another.” – Ephesians 4:25
12.) Take care of your health
Over the summer, I made it a habit of mine to wake up in the morning and go on daily runs. It was so refreshing for me and I noticed a ton of changes in my appearance as a result.
Now that it’s winter, I’m struggling to keep this going. Hopefully, I figure something out soon.
“So refuse to worry, and keep your body healthy.” – Ecclesiastes 11:10
13.) Read your bible
I cannot stress how important it is that we all get our daily bread. Many people find bible study to be very boring, but I promise you, God’s word is really delicious.
God recently gave me a supernatural hunger to study scripture and I’ve been enjoying the revelations so far. Each day I forget to meditate, I start to feel like I’m starving because it is really that good!
“And have tasted the good word of God” – Hebrews 6:5
14.) Prayer is your weapon
I cannot stress the importance of prayer. I’ve seen the fruit produced in my life as a result of it.. and I can’t recommend it enough.
Make time to pray in tongues for at least an hour each day and watch how it transforms you.
“pray without ceasing” – 1 Thessalonians 5:17
15.) Check on your family
I used to be so guilty of not calling my family members often. But since my dad passed, I’ve made a more conscious effort to reach out as often as I can.
“Bear one another’s burdens and thus you will fulfil the law of Christ” – Galatians 6:2
16.) Invest more time in your passions
You never know where a hobby might take you. I used to blog for fun. But as of today, blogging has become my actual side job and I love it.
17.) Use your voice
Over the past few months, I’ve learned to speak what’s truly in my heart. I never used to be this way before, since I was such a people pleaser and cared what others thought. However, these days I no longer hold back.
I’ve lost friends as a result of this, but I’ve also gained genuine friends as a result of it too. I will rather be real to your face than fake behind your back.
“Cry aloud; do not hold back; lift up your voice like a trumpet” – Isaiah 58:1
18.) Use your gift
Do you know how many times the enemy has tried to use people to stop me from stepping out in my gifting? Countless times!!!
I’ve had people try to silence the work of God in my life. And I’ve also fallen into their deception and given up countless times as a result.
Learn from my mistakes and don’t quit.
“God has given each of you a gift from his great variety of spiritual gifts. Use them well to serve one another.” – 1 Peter 4:10
19.) Not every counsel is godly counsel
Even if it comes from anointed ministers.
I’ve made so many mistakes by listening to the advice of individuals that claim to have godly wisdom. Oh, how I wish I never listened!!
“For by wise guidance you can wage your war, and in abundance of counsellors there is a victory.” – Proverbs 24:6
20.) Social media isn’t everything
Some find their identity in the number of followers they have and others show respect based on follower count. Both I find to be meaningless.
Social media isn’t everything. In fact, it’s really all a facade. People who look to social media to know about a person’s life deceive themselves.
We tend to put our best out for the world to see while keeping the terrible things behind closed doors. So don’t expect social media to be a place for 100% transparency.
“You shall not bear false witness against your neighbour” – Exodus 20:16
21.) Pride comes before a fall
This is a saying that is often thrown around a lot. But I honestly didn’t understand it until much recently.
Humility is so attractive. And I constantly find myself drawn to people who are humble at heart. There’s just something about humility that makes the world your oyster.
“But those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted.” -Matthew 23:12
22.) It’s okay to cry
Crying does not make you weak. In fact, it shows you’re strong enough to let your emotions out for the world to see. Not everyone is brave enough to do so. Let the tears flow…
“Jesus wept.” – John 11:35
If you’re about 22 years old, what are 22 things you’ve learned in your 22 years of being alive? Let me know one of them in the comments below.