Raise your hands if you dislike being in a seasonal friendship.
Because I know for a fact that I do.
I am that ride or die friend who never wants to let go even when all odds are against me. Because I honestly hate to see people walk away.
Whenever the Lord sends someone new into my life, I’m always so excited with the hopes that they would become the new Jonathan in my life. However, the moment the excitement starts to fade away, I oftentimes start to sense a separation coming along.
This at times makes me never want to get too close to people out of the fear that it might only last a season. However, because life is too short and seasons are constantly changing, I’ve adapted to cutting friends off whenever there is a need for it.
Usually, when a seasonal friendship is about to end in my life, God usually highlights this one particular scripture in the book of Acts..
After some time Paul said to Barnabas, “Let’s go back and visit each city where we previously preached the word of the Lord, to see how the new believers are doing.” 37 Barnabas agreed and wanted to take along John Mark. 38 But Paul disagreed strongly since John Mark had deserted them in Pamphylia and had not continued with them in their work. 39 Their disagreement was so sharp that they separated. Barnabas took John Mark with him and sailed for Cyprus.” – Acts 15:36-39
And honestly, the minute that scripture pops up, I begin to await the ending of a seasonal friendship.
7 SIGNS YOUR SEASONAL FRIENDSHIP IS OVER
So if you’re someone who is reading this post and are in a seasonal friendship but you can’t really tell, I am going to be sharing 7 major signs that can help you decipher if your seasonal friendship needs to end.
From that particular scripture, it was so obvious that Paul and Barnabas couldn’t agree on the same thing. Not only that, they even ended up taking different people on their journeys to fulfil the destiny that God had placed for them.
So if you’re currently in a friendship where there are constant disagreement and you two can never seem to agree, you really need to ask the Lord if your friendship is seasonal.
It’s normal for friends to disagree once in a while, but if you are constantly finding yourself butting heads with them, then it might be time to call it quits.
A Seasonal friendship that has run its course would oftentimes turn into a toxic friendship if both parties don’t separate. So it’s important you really look within your friendships and start cutting cords.
Your paths don’t align
Maybe you both started out with the same vision and goals. But somewhere along the line, your visions started to change. Often times, this could be a sign that your seasonal friendship needs to end.
It’s dangerous to force a friendship that requires both parties to go on different paths. Because not only would this affect you, but the other party involved.
Know that the Lord would always bring new friends whenever you step into a new season, so let go of your seasonal friends and trust that He would guide you to better ones.
You can’t be who God called you to be around them
If you constantly have to downplay your gifting or pretend to be someone you’re not in the company of such friends, it may be time to let go and start embracing the person you were made to be.
There are some friends who will not agree with the vision that the Lord has placed in your heart. And it’s okay to let go of such individuals.
If you try to force the friendship when the Lord is trying to end it, you might end up not becoming the person He made you to be. And oftentimes, this could even result in a loss of identity since you won’t be living up to your fullest potential.
They only hit you up for favours or prying
It is dangerous to keep friends who only reach out when they want something from you or want to pry into your personal life, but add no value to your overall well being.
Such people are energy vampires and can literally suck time and effort away from you without adding any value in return. It’s even worse when they only reach out to pry into your personal life, with no interest in staying connected.
Look out for such friends in your life and bring it before the Lord, so that He can help you tell if it’s seasonal or permanent.
Not every seasonal friendship that has run its course would stir up jealousy, but oftentimes, this could be a culprit.
Do you get jealous the moment your friend gets promoted to a higher level than you, or do you celebrate the promotion?… and vice versa?
It’s important you look within your friendships and ask the Lord to reveal which ones are seasonal, especially if you begin to notice any form of jealousy or envy.
It’s dangerous to have friends who do not celebrate you during times of promotion. So do cut the cords right now before it gets out of hand.
They bring out negative traits in you
If you have friends that constantly bring out negative traits within you that you’d rather leave buried, it’s important you start to weed them out and move on.
Friends should make you become better, not worse. So if there’s anyone in your life who constantly causes you to lash out and bring out toxic traits within you, it’s best you start cutting them off.
Trust me, you’d get much better sleep the minute they exit your life.
They take advantage of your wounds
This point is actually pretty serious and I do recommend you cut off anyone who tries to take advantage of your wounds. If there is someone in your life right now that you’ve become vulnerable with and as a result is now treating you with scorn.
Listen, end it!
Do not let anyone take advantage of your wounds, especially friends. Someone who is not willing to give their life up for you does not deserve to take advantage of your wounds. So please do yourself a favour and eliminate them completely.
It will be much better for you in the long run, so please don’t try to force such friends to remain in your life.
Till next time,
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